Three things that will keep you unhappy forever
In this week’s article, I’m going to explain the three reasons that you are never going to be as happy as you could be, and how you can take steps to change that. I can tell you from experience that if any of these behaviours resonate with you, you are never going to be optimally happy unless you reshape your thinking, reshape your relationship with your world and what you want out of it.
Number one: you are not grateful for what you have until it’s missing. Let me give you an example. We miss the sun in the wintertime. Maybe that’s quite UK-centric now because it’s winter now, but I think we can all experience something like this all over the world. There are going to be periods where the sun either goes, or if you live in a very hot country, you’re delighted the sun goes and actually it’s more the fact that the cool weather goes, and the heat arrives. Perhaps it’s a rainy or dry season that you miss.
Whatever your circumstances, do you acknowledge and say, “thank you for a lovely sunny day or a cool day, or the rain?” Do you make time, or do you have a lifestyle that allows you to make time to enjoy the sun, go and walk out in the rain? From spring onwards, I watch that weather forecast, and I book days away from the office to enjoy the outdoors. I shuffle my week around so that I can take the best days and do what I love, go out in the garden, go for a walk in nature, maybe have a holiday or a weekend away, and that’s because I follow the Five Principles of a Wealthy Life.
I believe that if you’re not grateful for what you have, you miss that opportunity to enjoy other experiences. Why would you, you don’t even recognize what you’ve got, why would you be grateful for more? I talk a lot about gratitude. I really believe that if you’re not grateful for what you’ve got, it’s very difficult to attract more into your life because you are not in the mindset to see things; you’ll only be looking at the gaps.
Number two, you don’t appreciate the opportunities around you until somebody else seizes them. Now, of course, this is predicated on the fact that you even know what an opportunity is, and I don’t mean that in a rude way. Not all opportunities are actually opportunities for every person. Some opportunities are designed specifically for you, and I truly believe that there are opportunities out there for everyone if you just know what you’re looking for. You first need to know what would constitute your opportunity, and then you must pay attention and identify it when it comes your way.
What I’m saying here is that there are loads of opportunities all around us, but you must know what constitutes an opportunity for you in order that when it’s sitting there you say “that’s my opportunity. I’m going to seize it.” And to do that, you need to have a plan. You need to know what it is that you want to achieve. By knowing what you want to achieve, you can then break it down and know what resources or contacts you need to bring together.
If you don’t appreciate the opportunities around you, someone else will seize them because they are looking for them. They are recognizing them. Not every opportunity is yours. There are plenty of opportunities that are yours, but there are also those that are for other people. If you are not ready, it’s not a case of you grab them and someone else can’t have them. But if you are not ready to spot those opportunities, you will miss them.
And then number three; any time you compare yourself with others when, frankly, they might not be happy and living a life of gratitude and appreciation themselves. This, I know I bash it all the time, has a lot to do with social media. I’m going to knock it in a minute, but I think it’s something that you can control. It’s like everything; if you have a plan and you know how you want to create your life, you can then choose the social media channels and the social media influencers that are positive and uplifting for you, rather than negative or toxic.
Negativity and drama are what stop you being entrepreneurial. What stop you living the wealthy life that you want. And if you are there in that drama zone, the social media, the news, the adverts and potentially even the friends that you have will trigger comparison. I mean, the social media, the news, and the adverts are designed for that. Why do you think every advert has got these gorgeous looking men and women dressed in a certain way, smelling a certain way, going to certain places, having certain holidays, wearing certain clothes, eating certain food? Because the advertisers are trying to persuade you that that’s what you want.
But how many times do we hear about celebrity relationships breaking up? How many times have we heard about celebrities unfortunately ending their lives because they’re not happy? It’s all an illusion, and it’s an illusion triggered by the marketers. However, you can find your way through that, you can come off platforms that don’t provide the sort of content that you want, that is supporting you in the life that you want to leave, and you can choose to follow people that produce the content that you do want to read about, and you can get away from that comparison-mode.
Do you really want to live your life so that other people, who don’t care about you and may not even know you, think that you are something that you may not even really care about in the first place? What a terrible recipe for madness: “I’m going to be something that I’m not happy with, but I know by being this thing, other people – who I don’t know and don’t care about – will think that I’m special, but actually I’m miserable.”
Committing to other people’s standards, falling into the comparison trap, is why you’ll not be happy in the future. Commit to being real; live 2023 and 2024 and onwards as if you don’t care what other people think. Decide what matters to you. Caveat here: as long, of course, as that does no actual harm to others, but live your life according to your values, your true values. If you take into account these three happiness-draining behaviours and correct them, you’ll be doing what you love with those that matter most. This is what I call a wealthy life or a life that is wealthy: doing what matters to you most with those that you love. That’s that for a thought.
Before I sign off, I want to make you an offer where you are going to help me help others find my podcast, my YouTube, my Instagram, and the message that I’m sharing. And in return, I’m going to help you create the life you want to. I want to spend 2023 helping as many people as possible create their own Wealthy Life. So I am going to offer you the chance to work with me as one of 5 Wealthy Strategy programmes (that’s 12 hours of calls with me – about 2-4 a month depending on your circumstances) absolutely No charge
In return to increase my social media presence and help as many people as possible to watch my videos and listen to the podcast I am going to ask you to do 3 things:
- If you have not already – please subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts and then leave a review on episode one – you can also leave other reviews
- Subscribe to my Youtube channel where a new series called A Wealthy Life will share short tips, and longer lessons to help you achieve your own Wealthy Life again please find a video you like and leave a review especially the first video as that helps others know why they should subscribe and watch
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Then take screen shots of your reviews or the videos you like best and email them to Kimberley@Wusche-Associates.co.uk with the heading This is my opportunity
This opportunity to work together and share my message will run from Thursday 15th Dec 22 to Thursday 16th Feb 2023 and then on Thursday 2nd March I will announce on the show the five people that I will be personally working with to create their Wealthy Life.
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