I have just returned from the vet with my kitten Mischief minus his testicles. As I drove back my mind wandered to what I had done and what that meant.
Testicles are really a metaphor or even slang for having the gumption or courage to act. I remembered certain conversations I have had over the last few weeks with colleagues and clients started to noticed that a lot of people had given away their power to act.
One conversation came to mind most strongly, that of a client who spoke of their past and how they repeatedly felt disempowered, so much so that they now were struggling to make decisions and act on their own. It was like they did not have the balls to make a decision about their own future.
I wondered about who, when and how this person lost their power (balls). I know from my own experience that marriage took a severe toll in my life – it was insidious and sneaky, compounding and constant. I remember sitting in my first personal development seminar in 2007 completely unaware that I had lost my own balls and replaced them with jelly and ice cream – for that’s how much use they were!
I am not language specialist but in conversations with people I can hear the sentences that that tell a story of disempowerment and loss of courage and power. Can you hear it in others? Have you heard it in yourself?
I think the greatest skills we can acquire is to hear what we say, when we are not achieving our business goals or life isn’t going as we would like – to really listen to ourselves and ask that question – where are my balls – when did someone steal my testicles
Then go out there and get them back …