Do you ever wonder what drives some people? What is their motivation? I am pretty clear that my incredible life in property investment really gives me all the incentive I could ever want. It drives me and it satisfies me. An ideal combination. However, I like to think that I rule it, it does not rule me – that’s the difference between a balanced life and a job with no boss!
That is the point I am aiming at, because some of us are driven by forces we cannot control, or which we like to think we can control, but which are beyond our reach. I mention this in relation to an experience I had recently, while on holiday in Egypt. I had gone for a week-long, scuba-diving holiday.
One of the divers on the boat was a smoker and he was quite open about it. It probably isn’t the cleverest thing to do when your hobby depends upon being able to operate in an underwater environment when your life depends upon your ability to breathe without coughing. So many divers do smoke; they say it reduces the amount of air they need to breathe!
As a former smoker when I was younger and more foolish, I understand the addiction but having recently lost my best friend to cancer I am now the world’s most vehement anti-smoking nag!
So, after he had had a shish kebab, he announced to anyone who was listening that he was going to give up the demon weed. Good for him, you might say. Well, good intentions are one thing, but putting them into practice is another thing. I know I have been there and I am currently struggling to give up meat! Well, he was no exception. He barely made it to midday the next day, before he had “borrowed” a cigarette and started smoking again!
It made me wonder – how could you rely on someone who has so little motivation or self-belief?
If I ran my property development business with the lack of control that the diver showed, I would be out of business in weeks. What it boils down to is simple: it’s trust. When someone commits to a certain course of action, you have to be able to count on them doing what they say they will. It’s that simple. Clearly, the diver had a goal which was to conquer his addiction to tobacco. He probably wanted to increase his life expectation too, I know he had a young family. Now, those are pretty important personal goals, wouldn’t you say?
If you cannot be relied upon to follow through with a course of action that you have announced to everyone, then I would question your commitment and reliability. If I say that I will do something, either in my property investment business, or in my personal life, then I expect to do it and I expect people to be able to rely upon me to carry out my stated aim. Being reliable and carrying out your stated aims is one of the defining characteristics of the successful business person.
Having said that – it is ultimately all about communication. If you make a declaration is it because you want support to achieve your goal – or is it because you want to be known for something? There is a big difference. If you are asking for support then you are also asking for accountability in the same sentence. If you are declaring your professional position then you are asking for trust.
What are you committed to & are you motivated to do it?
Do you want people’s trust or do you need to be held accountable?